There’s nothing worse than finding a generic copy-and-paste message in your inbox.
The only thing worse than this is receiving the same copy-and-paste message twice from the same person.
Did she mention a favorite a TV show in her description, does it look like she travelled somewhere cool in her photos, does she list beach volleyball as one of her interests?
Photos, profile description and interests will give you lots of content to work with when you’re crafting that first message.
Write a message similar to how you would speak, while leaving out empty greetings or the use of slang.
You don’t want to come across as being too formal or rigid in the first message. Jason If you want to improve your chances of getting a reply, you need to end with a call to action.
Part of wooing a woman is making her feel comfortable and allowing her to trust you.
This is especially important when you’re online dating because you are a stranger to her and have no friends or family members vouching for you.
Requesting contact information before knowing anything about her, will make her think you have ulterior motives and will likely make her feel uncomfortable.
Before contact information is sent or requested, make sure a few messages have gone back and forth, you have asked her questions, and attempted to get to know a little bit about her.
Be respectful, but don’t forget to show off your sense of humour. I was in Italy this past summer myself – loved the food and history. A call to action prompts the user to respond and much sooner than they otherwise would.
: Hey Tallblondecanuck, I really enjoyed reading your profile. Although your instincts are to end with something like “Hope to hear from you soon” or “Chat later”, try your best to ignore these instincts and ask a question that relates to their description, interests or photos.
If you compliment a woman on her looks in a first message, you’re coming on too strong.