article which argues that dating as we’ve known it has, well, passed on.I tried the same question on two of my female, single-but-dating coworkers.Their responses were immediate: “Oh, yeah.” Alex Williams, the author of the article, charges online dating, hookup culture, and unmitigated interpersonal connectivity with bringing about the “the end of courtship” — and the social rules that were supposedly part and parcel with it. And the question of its continued existence is really a stand-in for a much bigger issue, one that my coworkers and I soon found ourselves discussing: Why is modern dating seemingly devoid of mutual respect?
This figure alone (or a night out on any urban bar scene) is testament that dating is in fact alive and kicking.
That said, the we date have certainly changed from the ways we used to, and that's to be expected.
As human cultures and technologies evolve, so too will human relationships.
What we are witnessing is not necessarily the death of romance but the diminishment of a certain of human interaction which evolved for a specific sociocultural context.
Indeed, some writers hail the end of outdated modes of courtship as a positive sign, demonstrative of a more nuanced and inclusive dating arena as well as the expansion of women’s rights.
But other writers (Williams included) lament the loss of traditional dating, blaming modern communications technologies (such as Facebook, Gchats, and texting) for ruining romance.These technologies, the thinking goes, allow for constant connectivity without the need for direct interaction and without social context, which can create needless conflicts (e.g., Facebook-stalking a date can lead to finding pictures of them looking flirty with someone else, which can lead to feelings of insecurity and anger, and so on).Said conflicts, in addition to easy access to online dating sites, make it easier for us to leave current partners instead of putting in the work required of any relationship.Indeed, communications technologies have the potential to breed disrespect for each other’s time, privacy, and personal worth throughout all stages of a dating relationship — as anyone who’s been broken up with via text message can attest.All that being said, it’s not especially helpful to generalize an entire generation, as Williams does, as helpless victims of modern technologies and the “hookup culture” they supposedly promote.Indeed, this line of thinking discredits the power that we, as individuals and as a collective generation, have to define dating and our interpersonal relationships.