Also, insincerity: the person who claims over and over again to “absolutely love” his or her life just the way it is, to be “completely and totally” satisfied with everything in it.
These people claim to have joined said dating site on a lark (“my friend suggested it and I figured why not? These behaviors suggest this person might have trouble being honest about his or her vulnerability or true motives.
Attention to tone when you read profiles will help you to ferret some of those qualities no one admits to (we often don’t even know we have them, sadly).
So, you’d like to meet someone and have decided to go online.
That’s a good move — proactive and forward-thinking.
But be careful not to be lulled into habits that will undermine your online dating experience.
Here are some tips to keep in mind as you peruse the seemingly endless stream of profiles from prospective partners.
On the Internet, it's easy to feel nitpicky and maintain high expectations.
With apps like Tinder, you snap-judge users as if you were scrolling Amazon for the best pair of speakers. If what you want is a real connection — a relationship with a person you hope to love and who will love you — you will have to bring your most mature and empathetic self to the project.
This sense of being in the driver’s seat, of choosing, can be appealing. That means not saying, “Eh, she’s cute — but I prefer brunettes to blondes. ” You’d never behave this way in person, so don’t do it online.
Don’t worry too much about the particulars: which restaurants, bars, movies or books a potential date likes.
("Oh, he lives in Queens" or "She prefers After all, chances are many of your exes didn’t share your exact tastes, and nine times out of 10, it isn’t why you two broke up.