Introductions are pass, having been replaced with “friending” someone.
But with the advent of technology, neighborhoods have given way to online communities.
Everyone seems to know someone who knows someone who is getting married to their online sweetheart. The dating site’s algorithm automagically matches you up with like-minded people who have similar interests, hobbies, life goals, yada, yada, yada.
But after connecting with thousands of womenvia my Facebook pageand hearing their tales of missed dates, mixed messages, and misunderstood expectations, the horror stories seem to outnumber any purported success rate by a very wide margin. If this is true, then why do I receive hundreds of messages asking why he didn’t call, why she lied about being married, why he pretended to love her and then disappeared, and much, much more? “Research” When it comes to measuring the success of online dating, research studies and success stories are usually commissioned research through a third party, and paid for by the dating site.
Hardly unbiased results, but at first blush it reads impressively.
Here’s an excerpt from the Huffington Post in June, 2013: “Arecent study funded by [a major dating website]suggests that as many as 35 percent of Americans now meet their spouses online.
But the questions feeding these algorithms are highly suspect.
Firstly, to match someone with a potential mate, these questionnaires need to be answered honestly and accurately (and they aren’t; more on that coming shortly).
But, the questions these surveys ask are really about dating not relationships and there is a big difference between dating someone today and being compatible for the long term.
Where are the questions about environment, economic conditions, and outside influences?
What’s more, the study suggests that those marriages are less likely to end in divorce than those that begin offline.” What this article silently implies is that the phrase “meet their spouses online” translates to “meet their spouses while using an online dating site”.
However, if you read the complete study (and most people don’t), you will be quick to discover that “online” means exactly that: on the internet.
Meeting someone online is now commonplace, and is a reflection of the change in societal communication patterns, not a feather in the cap of the online dating industry.