Author, Online Dating and Netiquette Expert, CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, Media Personality, and Author of the Bestseller, "The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online." While I don't suggest you should abandon online dating completely, consider taking a break from the process and return refreshed, along with some realistic expectations and digital tools that might increase your chances of success.Just as athletes get muscle fatigue, daters do get online dating fatigue.
You handpick 10 men or women to write to and take the time to personalize the subject line. You diligently send emails more often than not, and still wake up to an empty inbox. Yet you find it hard to write an introduction email that will be catchy and stand out. Take for example *Mike (name changed), who has been sending the same 770 word count email about himself for four years to women promising a lifetime of happiness.
You didn't grow up wanting to be a copywriter, so your personality doesn't shine. Finding a date or a mate goes down a notch or two on the totem pole. You really don't want to work that hard when you get home. He wrote a novel with over 50 sentences to introduce himself.
Chances are Mike never reads the profiles of the pretty faces he views.
He diligently copies the same email daily and sends it cold to women with a shotgun approach. Sure online dating is a numbers game, but if you aren't an educated player, your email may end up deleted by the time someone reads the third sentence.
I finally had to tell him, "Copy + paste = erase." I suggested that he leave the novel at home.
He didn't appreciate my constructive criticism and is still single to this day.
If anyone has ever suggested that you might be too picky, chances are, they're right.
Your list may be so long on your profile, that it discourages would-be suitors who'd rather find someone more easy-going. She has a successful career, beautiful home, loves to cook, and really wanted to fall in love.
If your search parameters are too narrow, it's rare that you'll find a compatible partner, online or offline. She came to me as a last resort, having been single for a decade.