Wikipedia defines “cruising” as “walking or driving about a locality in search of a sex partner, usually of the anonymous, casual, one-time variety.” This is a fair definition, but some guys would define cruising more loosely: a basic sex hunt, not something you specifically set out to do but rather something you are always doing.
We do it on the subway and in the office and anywhere a handsome gentleman might lift his shirt to wipe sweat off his forehead.
In our minds, we lift his shirt the rest of the way and tug on the brim of his trousers with our teeth.
The following hookup may happen in your apartment, in a public restroom, or in the alley out back.
Wherever you choose, you are engaging in an art that gay and bi men have been perfecting for decades.
Check out these 24 classic cruising zones, some of which yielded better results in years past and many that are still used today. A Word of Warning From Writer Alexander Cheves My name is Alexander Cheves, and I am known by friends in the kink and leather community as Beastly. The views in this slideshow do not reflect those of and are based solely on my own experiences.
As with everything I write, the intent of this piece is to break down the stigmas surrounding the sex lives of gay men.
Those who are sensitive regarding frank discussions about sex are invited to click elsewhere, but consider this: If you are outraged by content that addresses sex openly and honestly, I invite you to examine this outrage and ask yourself whether it should instead be directed at those who oppress us by policing our sexuality. And feel free to leave your own suggestions for sex and dating topics in the comments. Follow me on Twitter @Bad Alex Cheves and visit my blog, Before anyone tries to convince you that bathhouses are no fun — that they are filled with creepy onlookers and tweaked-out drug addicts — go to one.
Go to Steamworks in Chicago or Berkeley, Club Dallas, or any of the Flex spas across the country.
If you are a kink pig looking for slings over saunas, find your nearest Slammer.
If these are not options in your city, plan a trip.
Big cities like Los Angeles and New York have bathhouses that, depending on the night, may have better crowds than the national chains — North Hollywood Spa, Tampa Men’s Club, Denver Swim Club.
The Everard Baths in New York City was the most written-about bathhouse in history until it closed in 1986 at the height of the AIDS epidemic.
Everard was open for almost 100 years and was visited by such gay luminaries as Gore Vidal and Truman Capote.