Nine master teachers, nine wisdom traditions, two 9-day residentials, one journey of the human spirit into the direct experience of living awake. I breeze through the questionnaire: How “green” am I? But just recently, I heard of an entirely new niche in the online dating market, for “conscious singles.” In this case, being conscious means living life in a thoughtful way, following a spiritual path, valuing nonsuperficial things when seeking a life partner. Perhaps my age (middle) and shape (no longer thin) and strong personality (pitta, remember? stare at the blank form on the website — the one that invites me to open my heart and pursue my soul mate via a labyrinth stocked with eligible men. I was more than capable of getting into my own romantic scrapes and didn’t need a website to exacerbate my bad decision making.
One woman waited for her first date with a man she’d met online, sitting at an outdoor table at the appointed place and time.
Readers of my early ’00s newspaper column emailed me with hundreds of horror stories, and sometimes their experiences would bring tears to my eyes.
Still, I remained gun-shy—thanks to overexposure to online dating’s downside.
After all, according to marketresearch.com, the dating services business is now a $2.1 billion industry in the U. alone, with niche websites gobbling up ever-larger slices of that pie.
“But so many people on sites like check the box that says ‘spiritual but not religious.’ So it’s about time we had a proliferation of sites that focus more on things like character, beliefs, and spirituality, rather than religious dogma.” Faith says choosing a niche site is smart for people who aren’t interested in dating 100 people in order to find someone to whom they can relate on a deeper level.
“I would equate using a niche site to going to Bloomingdale’s instead of Costco,” Faith says with a laugh. And you are matched for more important reasons than that you both don’t smoke.You’re matched because you’re both Buddhists, or care about the environment.It’s exciting to take a swim in that pool.” The only downside, she notes, is that there are far fewer people on niche sites. Pitta is “ambitious by nature but also can be demanding and abrasive.” Yikes—do I really want that on a profile if I’m trying to get dates? This is a website for “conscious singles,” and men who populate the site will be interested in the—and not a false picture of someone younger, sleeker, and more deferential. In that regard, I was singular among my single friends—the Luddite left on the platform at the train station. Despite having written about single life for more than a decade, I had never dated online in any serious way.) might not be detriments in this brave new dating world. ” urged my friend Marc, an herbalist in San Francisco who met a wonderful woman on Conscious