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The syndrome of Yellow Fever can range from mild preference to outright vulgarity, and is worthy of examination.

Are you like Dug, the dog in “Up”, who can’t keep his focus after spotting a squirrel? After all, some men are attracted to blondes, redheads or Swedes. But this particular brand of attraction leaves many Asian and Asian American women uncomfortable – and angry.

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(There is a related syndrome among gays and lesbians also known as “Rice Picking”.) Most men with Yellow Fever – know they have Yellow Fever.

They know they are more attracted to women of Asian ethnicity, but they are often unclear why. points out, women of Asian ancestry are frequently exotified and stereotyped.

They might casually attribute it to looks, but when you probe more deeply, many can admit fascinations with Asian culture, or that they harbor stereotypes about Asian women, stereotypes which are blatantly racist, misogynist, and devaluing. They are “submissive, man-pleasing ‘sex kittens’”, or in a more palatable phrase I’ve heard “have great personalities.” What does that mean, exactly?

Usually, it means that Asian women are perceived to be less aggressive, more docile and self-sacrificing – more obedient, in other words.

They are perceived as less likely to challenge their partners and be compliant.

(Saedi has another nice article on how exotification is a microaggression.) Stereotypes are projections made in an attempt to organize the mind, exert power, and cope with and control a world that feels threatening or is not fully understood.

They distort reality and create an environment of misunderstanding and even oppression.

As Anais Nin wrote, “we see the world not as it is, but as we are.” Any person projecting the stereotypes of submissiveness, etc.

onto an Asian female is likely to get a sound rebuke.

Racist and polarizing assumptions limit possibilities and invite backlash.

Why would the person with Yellow Fever need to project limiting stereotypes onto their partner?

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