Don’t feel you have to sell yourself or introduce yourself too much – as we’ve said, they’ll definitely visit your profile and read about you there. Plus, the shorter your first email, the more intriguing you’ll be. You might say you’re busy and leading a fun, full life, but if you’re sending emails at 9.00 on a Saturday night, how busy can you be..?
Similarly, if you claim to love your job but the time stamp on your message says you sent it at 9.30 on a Monday morning, your reader might doubt your career ethic.
Stick to neutral hours, like lunchtimes and early evening.
Best opening lines for dating site
Instead, start by saying what caught your eye about their profile.
If it’s just their dazzling smile or their sparkly blue eyes, that’s fine!
If their profile made you laugh out loud in the middle of Tesco, say it.
If you despaired of ever meeting a woman who loved football (even if you question her choice of team), say it.
The easiest way to start a conversation with anyone new is to ask a question, so include one.
Tailor it to their interests or their work, or even one of their photos.
Ask open questions that require more than a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ reply, because these are more interesting to answer.
So, “You looked like you were having a blast on your skiing holiday! Where would you most like to go skiing that you haven’t been yet? One hundred words is about right: long enough to include a compliment, to say what caught your eye about their advert, mention something you have in common, and to ask a leading question.
Struggling to think of the right thing to say to an attractive match?
Here’s match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor with dating advice on how to give great copy.
Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.